No!

We staved it off for as long as we could, but Tyler has started to say "no." Well, he doesn't really say it as much as he yells it. I don't know if he got it from us or from somewhere else, but he's definitely saying "no." It seems to me that he knows what it means, too. Tyler doesn't say it very often, but he uses it in context, so that's what makes me think he knows the meaning of the word. I love hearing his real actual voice saying a real word, but I just don't like that it's "no." :)

We also gave Tyler his 3rd haircut, May 6, 2007. We kept putting it off, trying to decide whether to bring him to a barber or just do it ourselves. I finally felt bad that his hair was so long and in his eyes all the time, so we just did at home :) It took a whole day, between naps and such. But we did it. Don't get me wrong, it's not a wonderful haircut, but luckily Tyler likes the "messy" look :)

I went to a college girlfriend's wedding the weekend of Mother's Day. It was a fun, long weekend. Just us girls hanging out and talking, eating, and drinking :) We all live so far apart, none of us live in the same state, so these visits together are occasional and much-anticipated. Mike and Tyler managed on their own for 4 days! I was very impressed with Mike and he made sure that I never got worried. I think he enjoyed the time alone with Tyler, but he said he was glad to have me back. I loved seeing my two guys standing in the airport waiting for me to get off my plane! That was late on Mother's Day evening, and probably the best gift I could have asked for. It was really hard being away from the two people who are the center of my life, but it was so great to be able to see my best friends and hang out with them for those few days.

All Mixed Up

I am torn. I want to be a good parent, to provide discipline and limits for my son, let him know there are things he shouldn't do, not give in to tantrums and whining. But I also want him to be happy, to ALWAYS be happy. The following events take place just about every night, around dinnertime:

Usually, Tyler begins whining, and the whines get louder as he notices I've started to prepare dinner. If Mike is at class or isn't around, Tyler follows me around the kitchen, not understanding why he can't have dinner NOW. He usually squeezes his way between me and the counter, and looks up, wanting me to pick him up.

"No, Tyler, I can't hold you AND cut chicken for your dinner at the same time." Now, Tyler throws himself on the kitchen floor and wails. No toy will appease him. I tell him he needs to be patient while Mommy makes his dinner. Nope, didn't work either. I ask him to get in his high chair to buy some time (he can't do it by himself, but he tries a couple of times before he grunts and motions for me to help him). By now, I've gotten most of his food ready and can actually give him some. When Tyler is strapped in and eating, he becomes the angel we all know.

He doesn't throw these tantrums very often. We can pretty much predict when he will throw one. Usually around dinnertime, when something is taken away from him (like our cell phones), and when he has to sit still and doesn't want to (like diaper changes).

Other than that we have moments like watching him try to climb onto the couch, or when he runs up to us and gives us a hug, blowing kisses, and my favorite...actually kissing us! Tyler was outside with us on Sunday, as we were doing some yardwork. I was kneeling and weeding with a bucket next to me (for throwing the weeds into), when Tyler sidled up between the bucket and me, leaned over and gave me the sweetest kiss on the cheek! It was totally his own action, he didn't copy anyone...he just did it! I don't know if he knows exactly what he's doing, or what it means, but that moment (and others like it) definitely get me through the tantrum events.

I know that Mike lives for those moments, too. He loves that Tyler runs up to him and gives him hugs when he comes home from work or class. I love watching both of their faces light up when they see each other at the end of the day. I like to think that we are making connections with Tyler, that even though we give him limits and tell him "No", he knows that he is number one in our world and we really would do anything for him.

A kiss and a hug from that little person would get me through anything. The little things really DO mean the most.